Do you consider ghosting people a reasonable way to deal with today’s overwhelming and constant information and notification overload? Or do you find it offensive and unfriendly?
Would you equate it to a person ignoring you irl or is ignoring a text different?
For this post let’s assume the people involved are or were in the past friends, and ghosting is leaving someone on “read” for more than 2 days.
Honestly, who tf cares if I get left on read for a week? People have their reasons, their life and they go through shit, you won’t always have the ability or will to reply and that’s totally understandable, I would at most get worried and hope they’re okay, maybe text again cause they could have also just forgotten lol
As long as it has an explanaition I guess tho, if not I could see why some get upset. Same when it’s something important.
Only time getting ghosted ever mattered to me was when talking to my therapist about future appointments and my life plans, sent a long text and she never replied, still don’t know to this day why that happened and it feels weird. She’s still active on all her socials too and had contact info besides the place we were chatting at, so I can really think of excuses girl just hates me xd
I used to talk to this girl on some random app in the early days of social media. We became good friends and would facetime every other day and got to know each other pretty well. This went on for probably about 2 years. She even began to have feelings for me.
At some point, I decided to completely ghost her. The truth is I got this idea in my head that talking to girls on the internet was sad and desperate. But I didn’t want to tell her the truth.
She tried calling me and texting me but I never replied. Even about 6 months later she tried calling me out of the blue, but again I ignored the call.
To this day she still doesn’t know why I just disappeared on her. It was a horrible thing to do and I’m not proud of it. Ghosting is almost always cruel unless you have a very good reason for it.
I feel bad for her :(
So do I, it was a real asshole thing to do.
Have you tried to make it right?
maybe OP couldn’t because OP actually died and is a literal ghost
Not good. Done it a few times in my life, and I hate myself for it. I was in the recieving end for a while, like 5 years. It feels awful, specially if you are dealing with insecurities.
In no way would I consider read for 2 days as ghosting
depends. there’s people who to not ghost I’d have to have to have a several hour conversion of them spam texting or attempting to interrogate me and we were never close enough for it to be my responsibility to explain their interpersonal failings to them in detail. I can’t fix the world and if I spend my personal time giving every person I run into whose parents failed to teach them basic social skills an hour+ of psychosocial educational therapy, I would never get anything else done.
It depends on the situation and level of time investment.
If it’s someone you just met and immediately didn’t vibe with I think it’s fine, no time invested
If you’ve been on a date with them it’s kinda expected to turn them down. Time has been invested, if it’s a no don’t let them waste time.
If you run into them regularly it’s a bad idea regardless because leaving them on perpetual read with no resolution creates tension.
Thinking of people and hang outs as investments is… An interesting point of view, I guess.
