• AskewLord@piefed.social
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    say thank you, please, and etc. basic manners and courtesy to others.

    It blows my mind that almost nobody does this anymore. I go to like coffee shops and stores and etc every other day, and basically nobody says this to sales people anymore. It’s insane to me how objectively rude so many people are to other people who are helping them.

    it’s so bad that it’s gotten to the point i’ve had people tell me i’m wrong for saying these things to service people. becase ‘it’s their job you shouldn’t have to thank them’ etc.

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      Ok I think people are not a bad person for not saying it but how does one even conceive that these words could be negative? Do the people who say this have some kind of superiority complex or are they trying to live out their dom fetish or something?

      I have never heard any worker from the service industry ever say they wanna hear less kind words. The fuck.

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        Superiority complex. “Why should I thank the lesser people for just doing what they’re told?”

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          yep, bingo. people who say this have a massive superiority complexes and basically judge people’s ‘worth’ as entirely their job title.

          they will basically only respect people who have high status jobs like doctor, and look down on everyone else. they also have a massively inflated sense of their own job’s importance when most of the time they are just some middle manager in an office.

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          Yeah if you say the exact same phrase to the same people. But if you’re genuinely kind you adapt to the moment and then you stop sounding like a robot.

          And also this doesn’t apply to service workers who I will probably come across a handful of times only. And to them it’s probably more of an offset to the shitty experiences they had that day.

          TL;DR theoretically yes, practically no.

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            I agree, just giving an example of why someone might not want to say thanks all the time. I save it for when they actually look at me

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          Cheapens the phrase if you use it all the time

          “Welcome to Costco. . .I love you.”

          “Welcome to Cotstco. . .I love you. . .”

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      On a first date, someone said I was so incredibly polite. I was like, all I do is say please and thank you because my mother taught me it’s the right thing to do. She was responding to my placing an order at a coffee shop.

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        Same. Sooo many people are incredibly rude and entitled assholes and they see basic manners as weird or ‘weak’.

        I have had many terrible rude dates tell me how being nice to the waiter makes me ‘look weak’. It’s so weird and pathetic, but that’s how a lot of people view the work, like some savage competition.

        it’s gotten so bad where i live that I’m like genuinely impressived if a date says thank you to someone else, and totally SHOCKED if they say it to me for buying them something. 10 years ago most of my dates were polite and would thank me for the date, now they basically tell me to fuck off at the end of it if they aren’t into me.