I will be upfront with this, and say that I’ve never been a huge fan. But I did reinstall a Matrix server, and some clients to see if it’d gotten better in the year or so since I’ve last used it.
This just… Kind of feels like a more centralized XMPP with group chat folders that sort of function? The spaces feature is neat, but I’ve tried 4-5 clients, and every single one of those throws all of them into the same screen as the DMs by default, and I can’t find a way to change that.
Am I missing something here? Like. I want to at least see what people like here, I just can’t.


I struggle with that…I’m not very popular and I’m afraid nobody will ever talk to me if I ask them to just use a different app. I’m in one group chat from my old army buddies and we barely chat…
i get the impression that we all are. lol
That’s part of why I still gave phone numbers and emails, despite both not being secure in any capacity; most people do have them, even if they’re not their preferred methods of communication.
I did lose a couple of people, but they were the ones I caught up with like… Once a year, anyway. Not that I didn’t value them as friends, but there comes a point where it’s like… I’m not missing a whole lot without you here, y’know. And it’s not like I had that many friends, either, I only have a handful of people I talk to regularly. Maybe 15-20 a month if we’re including friends of people I know who I see in passing?