When I can’t sleep, I turn around and sleep “upside down” - moving my pillows to where my feet were beforehand, and my feet to where my head was beforehand - and I stick with that for a week or so. It gives me a week or so without insomnia and then wears off, so I have to turn myself back around for the next 7-12 day period.
Admittedly this could just be a me thing, but let’s put our faith in this method and let the power of placebo effect take hold. Boom, minor bouts of sleeplessness are cured.
What are your own examples of this?
This is more relationship advice. Ask your partner to have a day of sex where you just communicate what you want with words.
The first year of the relationship, I was using tricks I saw in porn. I was doing things to my wife that she didn’t care for, but didn’t say anything because she thought I enjoyed doing it. We later talked and the next session, we just followed what the other person wanted. And now it’s part of our tricks.
Next time your jabbing your sausage into her armpit, ask her if she’s liking what you’re serving.