My wife was 16 years older than me. The stability and confidence was a big pro. She knew what she liked and wanted and wasn’t afraid of it.

She had to have a complete hysterectomy, she didn’t like the hormone replacement therapy. Her natural lubrication dried up and penetration became painful for her.

A huge con is that I became a widower at 39 years old after 11 years together. It can happen at any age but the odds go up the older you get.