Almost everyone I’ve ever been attracted to was significantly older than me. I liked that they usually knew what they wanted and were straightforward about it, had direction in life, and I simply find men in a certain age range more physically attractive. What mattered most was how we got along and that we enjoyed each other’s company.

The pros and cons varied more by the individual relationship rather than by age. Age does not always correspond to maturity or responsibility. Looking back, I was definitely not as mature as I thought I was either, so there were times where they would be annoyed watching me make a big deal over something they already went through long ago and in hindsight, was not important at all. That, or they never outgrew that phase themselves. Sometimes there would be a mismatch in physical activity levels (I like to stay active and include sport in dates), although this is again dependent on the individual.

As @MuttMutt@lemmy.world pointed out, the risk of age-related health complications also increases and it’s heartbreaking to watch your partner experience them (my condolences to you).