Last night I had a hookup for the first time. I told the guy I wanted him to use a condom, which offended him because he was like, “Why do I need to use one if you already have an IUD? Do you think I’m some STD-ridden guy?” I told him I just don’t know him that well. Either way it was fine in the end, he put it on and it was a fine night. Now I’m thinking, was I being a pushover?
If the guy protests putting the condom on, I wouldn’t trust them to keep it on during the entire act. Stealthing is common enough that it has its own slang term.
However, it’s easy for me to recommend withdrawing consent, but in the moment when the guy has already been a bit scary during the condom conversation, it’s not always so easy.
Shame on him for completely fucking up the vibe.