Last night I had a hookup for the first time. I told the guy I wanted him to use a condom, which offended him because he was like, “Why do I need to use one if you already have an IUD? Do you think I’m some STD-ridden guy?” I told him I just don’t know him that well. Either way it was fine in the end, he put it on and it was a fine night. Now I’m thinking, was I being a pushover?
I sorta disagree. They should wear a condom for sure, but I hope that,if they are comfortable enough to have sex, that they are comfortable enough with each other to ask questions without malice.
Communication is important.
I see your point. I am just afraid of the other person agreeing to not wearing a condom because they might feel forced by the extra question and regretting the decision later.
But ideally they would indeed discuss with mutual respect and come to a good conclusion they both agree with ❤️
Yeah but unprotected sex with a stranger is malice in and of itself.
Agreed, but we’re they really strangers if the guy knew she had a IUD? I inferred some level of familiarity from there.
In any case, if I were to ask such question it would be either before or after the deed, so whatever.
Probably was mentioned earlier in the date, idk it is kinda too personal for me on a first date but ive had people tell me that casually.