Well… to be fair… nobody can sustain the wild life forever… the rolling stones are sober, Charlie Sheen is sober, etc. Everyone chills out or burns out… The healthiest way to deal with this is to find a balance. Think of what you enjoy and what you dislike about both sides and try and find a middle ground.

For some of my friends, that meant gathering 2-3 times a year and throwing a small rave where they can indulge in the wild life before going back to their normal one. For another, it was about finding a partner that was into swinging. For others it was simply enough to have enough to have a couple of good, supportive friends who kept them grounded.