I have tried to set up most of the options and I ended up on Filebrowser Quantum.

Simple to set up and use. I recommend giving it a try.

https://eylenburg.github.io/android_comparison.htm

This is a great table of comparisons between the different Android alternatives.

I found ejabberd to be more easy to configure than prosody. I just recently tried both, and couldn’t get prosody to work with my certs.

I can give you my podman run files if you’d like!