Probably this: https://github.com/nix-community/comma

It seems to be a bit “bleeding edge” at the moment, and the instructions for self-hosting are not really sufficient (at least for me).

https://github.com/stoatchat/stoatchat/issues/313

You’re correct. I think a lot of folks are looking for something decentralized/self-hostable to avoid the lock-in disaster that Discord has created, at least, I am. And I have found a dearth of alternatives! Good article, though.

I did. It isn’t a viable selfhosted alternative atm unless you want to do actual dev work

Ive spent hours configuring stoat and spacebar and I have to say they are absolutely not ready for self hosting. They also lack vital features my friends and I use, like high quality screensharing or video.

I’m trying my hand at matrix, but it’s rife with problems too. If you want high throughput video, you need to set up Jitsi alongside. I haven’t been having a good time.