Wife had a similarly terrible experience, and not that it holds a candle to yours and hers, but it was awful for me, too: Sexual intercourse was a guaranteed needle-stabbing-into-the-tip-of-my-dick situation, every time, and when it was brought up with the OBGYN, she dismissively said I was just “bragging about my size.” I was not. No action was ever taken, right up until I got a vasectomy and she had the IUD removed.
I’m sorry that you, and she, and so many others have had to endure what you have endured. I think these IUD’s need to go back to the drawing board, and on a larger scale, that there needs to be some major cultural shift to how male contraception is approached. This could be so much easier for everyone, if religion and money would get out of the way of science.
Oh man and I had that problem too. Obgyn was also just as bararic with inserting and removing the IUD, and they didnt believe that we had this problem during sex. I can’t make sense of it.
Dude - if this happens again - I always tucked the string around my cervix. Like so the pointy end was pointing back up inside me. I never felt it once it was settled and it didn’t stab my partner. The doctors will say “I can cut it shorter” but that’s a bad answer, what happens then when they go to remove it? And it’s still stabby but then you can’t tuck it around.
IUD is great when it works - safer than tying tubes or vasectomy AND it’s reversible.
And WTF? Aren’t most women like 4-5 inches long inside? I’m tall and presumably have a little more length in there but have gotten cervix punch by average guys just a bad angle.
I appreciate the pro-tip! I’m fixed now and she’s had the IUD removed, so hopefully someone else in our position finds this info, because I think it would have really helped us.
Birth control is such a mess, and it seems like there are better ways that are kept from us, as if those in control would prefer we all be breeding for some reason…
Wife had a similarly terrible experience, and not that it holds a candle to yours and hers, but it was awful for me, too: Sexual intercourse was a guaranteed needle-stabbing-into-the-tip-of-my-dick situation, every time, and when it was brought up with the OBGYN, she dismissively said I was just “bragging about my size.” I was not. No action was ever taken, right up until I got a vasectomy and she had the IUD removed.
I’m sorry that you, and she, and so many others have had to endure what you have endured. I think these IUD’s need to go back to the drawing board, and on a larger scale, that there needs to be some major cultural shift to how male contraception is approached. This could be so much easier for everyone, if religion and money would get out of the way of science.
Oh man and I had that problem too. Obgyn was also just as bararic with inserting and removing the IUD, and they didnt believe that we had this problem during sex. I can’t make sense of it.
Dude - if this happens again - I always tucked the string around my cervix. Like so the pointy end was pointing back up inside me. I never felt it once it was settled and it didn’t stab my partner. The doctors will say “I can cut it shorter” but that’s a bad answer, what happens then when they go to remove it? And it’s still stabby but then you can’t tuck it around.
IUD is great when it works - safer than tying tubes or vasectomy AND it’s reversible.
And WTF? Aren’t most women like 4-5 inches long inside? I’m tall and presumably have a little more length in there but have gotten cervix punch by average guys just a bad angle.
I appreciate the pro-tip! I’m fixed now and she’s had the IUD removed, so hopefully someone else in our position finds this info, because I think it would have really helped us.
Birth control is such a mess, and it seems like there are better ways that are kept from us, as if those in control would prefer we all be breeding for some reason…