Whenever I share, it goes poorly and I only end up triggering myself. I now only share with people in my inner circle and only if it’s relevant to something. Talking about it is really hard and if it goes poorly, it can retraumatize. Women have to defend immediately, ala “well what were you wearing?” Bitch I was 4. I don’t blame people for not talking about it more openly.

No I haven’t, and I don’t know anyone who has been either. However, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen, and I agree that people should be able to talk about it without being stigmatized or harassed - I wish more people agreed about that.

Yes, this chick I went on a Tinder date did. I showed up to pick her up, then she’s like “how about we stay in”, so I said “ok sure”. She already had stuff cooking so obviously she planned on not going to dinner or anything. Anyways we had dinner, it was ok. Her profile picture was obviously older (shocker), but not catfish levels or anything, she still was cute/ok. Anyways we had a couple drinks, and she ruffied one or both of them. All I remember is getting super tired, then flashes of her riding me on the couch.

It’s absolutely disgusting movies treat guys getting SAed as a joke but it’s treated as serious for women. I think there’s a movie, 40 days and 40 nights where the dude is literally tired to a bed and a girl basically raped him and it’s treated as a comedy scene.

My father forced me to masturbate to child porn by pretending to be a girl at my school on AIM. I would get scared and freaked out, stop responding to the account, then he would call me and demand that I keep talking to this “girl” because he was bothering him at work. Very graphic, explicit highly illegal shit. He also encouraged me to share his sex toys. Once he made me jerk him off.

Later he planted CSAM on my stepfathers laptop and got him fired from his job, arrested, years long court case attempting to prove his innocence before they finally dropped the case when we found time stamped photos proving my step dad was not at home. The FBI dropped the case right before trial.

Nothing happened to my Dad. He died a decade later still a PoS. There was a funeral, but I didn’t tell any of his friends. He didn’t deserve mourning. This all happened when I was between 12 and 20. The last time I talked to him before he passed, when I was 30ish. My girlfriend at the time left the room, and apropos of nothing he asked what kind of porn I liked and suggested ways to hide it from her.

A friend’s ex (not ex at the time) apparently sucked my dick when I was blackout drunk. She “confessed” to him, but told him I initiated, and that fucked up the friendship for a while until he confronted me about it and I set things straight. I’m pretty sure he believed me, she had a bunch of other behavioral problems and she’d cheated before, but things are still weird. At least they’re not together anymore.

Yup i was a work at a apartment building when a guest was staying at an apartment they waylayed me in the stairwell i froze as they kissed me and forced themselves on me only thing running through my mind was just go with it if they say i was the one who assaulted them instead i could lose my job or in trouble legally since it would be my word against there word. Luckly before we got to sex i was able to convice them i would come back another time i can’t do it now and i made sure to never see them around again and avoided them while they were around.

Yup. Twice.

Yes. (I am a woman and pretty old so I guess it goes without saying but yes.)

Id say that me being mutilated by circumcisiom as a baby is the closest Ive come to this happening to me.

The law doesmt see it as SA . But I do. ALL humans are entitled to an intact body, no?

Funny thing is I got ‘circumcised’ for religoois reasons… but Ive been an atheist my whole life…so…what do I do now?..

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Im so sorry for the pain you had to silently carry for years

But something Ill add is The thing I find fucked up is that we have stories like yours happening agaim and again and again and they keep on and keep on and keep om happenimg …and yet…humanity hasnt dont a darned thing to permanently change this.

We will have stories just like yours here once again in 20 years whehn someone askes this same question to the next generation sadly…

Itll never end until humanity ensures that it ends.

Sorry once again 🫂

I’ve had my full dick and balls groped by an older (like 50’s) lady at one of my jobs (I was maybe 20-21). Brought it up to management and was told “What!? No way! She’s just a sweet old lady, she would never do anything like that!”

Meanwhile she not only grabbed my whole ass genitalia, she whispered “I’d love to see all this up close” while doing so.

No one ever believed me and it happened multiple times hence why I no longer work there…

I have been coerced before, by my ex wife.

Long story made short, if she wanted sex and I didn’t, and I said no, it would always pan out the same way. We’d start at “Did I do something wrong?” And end up at “everyone hates me and I should just go ahead and kill myself.” So I stopped saying no even if I didn’t want to, because honestly it was faster to just give her what she wanted.

As a man, it feels so minor compared to what everyone else will associate with sexual abuse, but my therapist tells me abuse is abuse and that nobody would question it if the genders were reversed.

It’s had effects even 5 years after we’ve separated, but I’m getting better. Learning to take up space again.

Yes.

As a young teen by a stranger. He knew my routine and when I would be alone walking and would intercept me.

A couple of times more recently…I don’t know if it would really qualify as assault because they were pretty minor incidents but it was by women I met on a dating app.

This should be NSFW. Not everyone wants to be reminded of being SA’d by scrolling Lemmy