Sorry for a challenging and maybe weird question.
It is something my parents engaged in a lot while I was growing up (presumably unknowingly), and it’s also a recurring point of discussion online, wherever I go.
On the internet, most people seem to regard it as very traumatic, though my own experience of it wasn’t. It was more just something that happened, and most of the time I’d be sleeping through it anyway. I also feel that any potential trauma here is mitigated by raising your child with a generally healthy knowledge of sexuality.
A common comment on the topic is that people can “just do it quietly,” but I’m inclined to think that some people do need to react very loudly to sexual stimulation.
Interested to hear what everyone else’s experiences, or views on the matter, are. EDIT: If the question interests you, here’s a guardian advice column post with extensive comments on the matter: “I can’t climax quietly and I’m worried my teenage kids will hear me.”
I don’t worry about it that much, but do try to be somewhat, I wouldn’t call it discreet, but would lock the door, and always taught the kids to knock if the door is closed - I don’t care if they know what we are doing but certainly don’t want them walking in unexpectedly and strong preference that they not hear us much.
They are grown now, not traumatized and pretty open with me so it seems to have worked out.
I think my position when they were younger can be summed up as: sex is normal, it is for adults, stay away lest ye see something you really don’t want to.