Sorry for a challenging and maybe weird question.
It is something my parents engaged in a lot while I was growing up (presumably unknowingly), and it’s also a recurring point of discussion online, wherever I go.
On the internet, most people seem to regard it as very traumatic, though my own experience of it wasn’t. It was more just something that happened, and most of the time I’d be sleeping through it anyway. I also feel that any potential trauma here is mitigated by raising your child with a generally healthy knowledge of sexuality.
A common comment on the topic is that people can “just do it quietly,” but I’m inclined to think that some people do need to react very loudly to sexual stimulation.
Interested to hear what everyone else’s experiences, or views on the matter, are. EDIT: If the question interests you, here’s a guardian advice column post with extensive comments on the matter: “I can’t climax quietly and I’m worried my teenage kids will hear me.”
I want to break this question into a few parts:
For 1, I’d say it’s polite to keep it down a bit for other people’s sake. Especially because sex can be a bit… repetitive, it gets annoying fast. Don’t bonk the walls. Fix your creaky bed. Muffle your screams.
I don’t think it’s harmful for children to hear sex, if you’ve explained to them that it’s nothing to worry about. Don’t try to hide it or look guilty or ashamed either, let the kids know it’s good and healthy. Apologize for the noise though, see point 1.
If you sound like you’re being murdered and the door is locked, that could freak out a kid. Make sure the house is empty before you do loud CNC play or whatever you’re into.