fuck I’m not in the right headspace when I’m asking this, unresolved trauma. Now I’m repeating in my head “love them more than my mental illnesses”.
I wanted to warn an organization i cared about my past and that manipulation comes naturally to me to the point where I don’t notice after the fact. I legit want see them succeeded and stand in blind solidarity.
I have reached out someone in the organization about my issues. I’m hoping they respond.
Being aware of your unwanted behaviour is the first step towards modifying it. Good luck!
Why not just talk to a professional?
time, just happened yesterday
Your employer is not your therapist.
Probably a question that should be discussed with a therapist. I dont think people here can give a good answer as we lack to much context.
yes, but this is also a straight up troll.
legit narcissists don’t think they are manipulating people, or being narcissists. they see their behavior as ‘natural’. they also don’t talk about their trauma.
There’s plenty of narcissists that know they’re narcissists, and there’s therapy tools to help them participate in the world in a more healthy manner, but as you sorta indicated, it’s very rare any want to, and even more rare than any actively go down that path, so seeing someone speaking as if they’re struggling with it internally without seeing any sign of having already developed those tools makes it highly unlikely they’re legit. Probably just regular old mental illness of some sort, maybe attention seeking coupled with drug use and emotional instability. Wonder if they’re single, that’s right up my alley.
Weird how often I see this take. Narcissism is really Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and it is possible for someone with NPD to recognize they have it and want to change. Not super common, but it is possible.
Sure they will want to change, but they can’t, and won’t. Narcissists are the worst.
“weird how often I see people assuming people with NPD are going to continue to exhibit traits of NPD”
is possible for someone with NPD to recognize they have it and want to change.
at this point they are ceased being a narcissist.
Yeah your sentence has two verbs in the same sentence. You should say “they are being” or “they ceased being”.
Buuuuut I don’t use basic communication errors to find mentally ill people
I just want to say that this level of self reflection is admirable given your challenges. Tell people you trust or people that need to know only. As far as stigma goes, nobody has it worse.
until you realize trump is president, but the behavior is permissible just not labeling yourself as a narcissist. society does have rules that only exist to isolate us and hostility towards those that are mentally ill is one of them
I assume you’re asking this because you’d like to reduce the impact of that kind of behaviour.
If that is your goal, then it would be best attained by going to psychotherapy. NCD/ASPD cannot be healed, but it can be treated and its effects greatly reduced, assuming you’re willing to put in the work.
Are you really narcissistic or did someone just say you are (rhetorical question for yourself, not the internet)?
If you really are, congratulations, knowing and admitting is a huge thing!
Listen to the other advice, ask a professional.
I feel like you’re the first to sincerely ask that. I can answer that I just have a trigger warning about it. Even though the other threads hint to how I know outside of a professional diagnosis
It’s a neurodivergent thing, I often ask and say things outside of social habits. Also I don’t need the answer nor does it mean anything to me to be blunt, uh, again.
Okay I got ya. Nah I have an hole issue with communication. I don’t want problems to get overlooked or needless mistakes to be made.
Probably neurodivergent myself since I can’t quite connect to another person
That seems kind of antisocial and would get a lot of attention, so yeah, win-win!
If you are and you admit it, you’ll get more grace from intelligent people. Sometimes.
Hmmmmmm… Now how many people do I think walking around is intelligent
*are
if you truly are a narcissist, they will know after 2-3 talks with you. no worries.
Well if I was a shitty narcissist, but people are catching on that I’m shitty to MAGA and conservatives in general.
You know shitty behavior is still shitty behavior
I consider being shitty to MAGAts good behaviour
Yes.
that’s noted. but i need reasons, i have to process the logic behind the answer
I mean, the logic behind the answer is right there in the question itself. If you’re trying to be honest person because you respect this place, and it’s people, which it seems you are-
Telling them it’s in your nature to deceive is definitely a way to protect them. Even if it’s from you yourself.
Have you been diagnosed as such by a psychiatrist?
Yeah, something else seems to be going on. A narcissist doesn’t consider warning people about themselves.
I was gonna say something like this.
Narcissists have a very hard time accepting they’re narcissists.
If you think “hmm, I might be a narcissist” you’re almost certainly not.
But you might be a hypochondriac or have Munchausens
Or they hear about narcissism and think it sounds like a good thing, which is apparently a pretty common reaction.
