You sound a bit thirsty but otherwise reasonably normal.

An appreciative, furtive glance is received vastly different to a lecherous stare. Be aware of what your face is doing.

If a girl even remotely suspects a man is following her then 99.9% of the time you will cause terrible fear. It’ll never occur to her that you were just temporarily detouring to appreciate an ass so fine you want to build a temple for it.

Remember that the world in your head and the world outside your head are different places with different rules. Outcomes can vary.

I will change my walking route to innocently walk past them and steal another look.

Yeah that’s something you should probably stop doing. People notice, and it might not look as innocent as you might think. Many among them will act as if they didn’t notice in order to avoid a confrontation. Just stay on your route please.

I’m going to be honest that your “infatuation”, as it were, with all women seems fairly extreme to me. I do look at all people as they go by, and might think to myself “damn, she was cute”, but for me that’s about it. I might steal an extra look, but only rarely.

As you say yourself, you think they notice and I think you’re right. You also mention that you don’t like it but just “let yourself get away with it”. Maybe it’s worth trying to not let yourself get away with it? Make a conscious effort to stop? Self improvement is possible and even quite rewarding at times! And self control doesn’t come naturally to the rest of us either. I wouldn’t think this kind of behaviour is particularly healthy for you, but that’s just my two cents. Best of luck!

I mean I assume you don’t have much sex or a girlfriend or anything.

In that case, at least from what I know from myself or my friends, this desire to look is completely normal. I think you might follow that desire a little bit too much (as it is something you can control), but the base feeling you have is something most men experience.

Your nature is telling you to approach women and have sex with them. For some reason, you don’t, maybe because you’re scared, socially anxious, people have told you being sexual is terrible, whatever. This part of your nature is very strong, and as it seems the only thing left for you is looking, of course you’re going to want to do it.

If you actually approach women and have a healthy sex life, that desire probably goes down, but of course now you’ve also made it a kind of compulsive habit, so it might be hard to break.

It’s honestly quite ridiculous to me that you’re ashamed of looking at sexually attractive people. Despite what some radical feminists or whoever will tell you, just looking and being sexually attracted is nothing shameful. It’s more likely that this shame itself is causing the issue, since you’re sexual, yet that is for some reason shameful so you can’t satisfy it, causing you to have more of a sexual desire since you have so little of actual action.

Sexuality is our main drive, it is constant, and there’s nothing wrong with it as long as you inquire about people’s boundaries and respect them.

Cis male who’s much older than you: you’re not alone, but my drive to do so has tapered over time. Polite society is, in large part, about overcoming primal caveman (or “lizard-brain”) urges. Primal urges are different for different people.

Having a quick glance at something that attracts you is normal. Being sneaky about it is where the behaviour needs to be corrected, or, at least questioned. I think you’ll be okay in the long run as you seem to posses self-awareness, which a lot of people have not cultivated in themselves. You are different in exactly the same way that everyone else is.

Try talking to a sex therapist.

If you’re a heterosexual man you’re probably gonna find most/a good chunk of women until they’re in their 40s attractive to very attractive and have some natural bodily reaction to it. That’s just how it is, that’s how we became billions. A man must control his horny and his angry, that’s our responsibility, at the very least their expressions, in order to remain moral and prosocial. One thing I can say is that, if you’re in love and getting busy often with your one and only, you stop being so sexually obsessed with other women, in a very deep and perhaps biological level. That’s what I’ve found out at least, and I’ve been with my lady for a little over a decade now and all of my friends except two very good lads are women. I’ve never crossed a boundary nor have I even wanted to. 🤷👍

So, don’t worry, you’re just a horny young (late 20s is young) man because of the hormones, if anything it’s healthy, it’s how our ancestors had to be to get out of the caves. Focus on love, find your one and it’ll kinda go away. ✌️

It’s normal & I don’t care, only care about behavior - I expect straight guys are looking at women, aware of attractive women, notice nice figures, men are very visual in general, nothing bad about it. And I expect gay guys are constantly checking out men as well.

Bad is remarking on it all the time, touching, staring really hard when the lady looks uncomfortable about the staring, looking at boobs when someone is talking to you - you already know all this! Just noticing, you aren’t going to be able to turn that off and ought not if you could.

Me, I notice looks but not often turned on by anyone’s look. And I notice guys looking and do not care, don’t think it means anything.

I’m a woman I assume men “look at me” in the way you’re talking about, I also often look at men in similar ways, albeit with significantly less urgency, as long as the person looking isn’t leering or ogling the other person I don’t think it’s a problem. If you do happen to make eye contact a simple nice smile and getting on with your day is the best friendly/non threatening way to diffuse it acting shady like you got caught doing something bad makes it seem like that.

It’s normal just be discreet and respectful if you do happen to be caught

You know that phenomena where you buy a yellow car, and then you suddenly see yellow cars everywhere?

Brains are really suggestible.

You don’t need to be ashamed, if your brain has gotten into a habit you don’t appreciate, or is negatively affecting your life, it’s something you can work on.

Gals are pretty, I’m not attracted to them, myself, but I absolutely get it.

What you want is to feel like you’re in control of enjoying looking, and not that it’s a compulsion, like it’s driving you. That’s gotta be almost taking all the pleasure out of it for you. I could imagine that would be hugely annoying.

Just start by noticing other things, go out specifically to see something, birds, trees, bugs, water, boats, whatever you find interesting, and start retraining your brain towards something else, if you try “not” to look at something, it’s still the main focus, if you try not to look at girls, the focus is still girls, it’s easier to help your brain notice other things. Count how many of something you see. Just let your brain notice girls as you go, notice what it’s telling you and then move back to what you were looking at redirecting towards.

You don’t have to do what your brain tells you to do, you aren’t your “thinking brain”, you are the entity that observes your thoughts, you might be inadvertently feeding those thoughts into a bigger thing than you want them to be, by actioning on them. I would suggest, try not walking or actioning them. That feeds that wolf, which is perfectly normal and fine, but hes just gotten a little too much for the space you want him to occupy.

This is all ok, its a perfectly normal, developmental stage. It will calm down on its own, too, don’t stress.

A look or two is normal. Looking at sexy people scratches the feelgood brain bits. Changing your path to gawk is getting a bit sketchy. You should probably masturbate a bit more often, or better yet, find someone to share orgasms with. You’re craving it.

You had me up until you said you would change your route.

I see a nice ass, I’ll take another look. I won’t alter course to walk past again though. I feel like that needs addressing.

It’s called hypersexuality and is a symptom of many different things.

I definitely had a phase like that. I also was quite disgusted with myself and tried to rein it in as much as possible. I wouldn’t intentionally walk somewhere to see more girls. I also started to fight the urge to glance, because it just felt wrong to me. That went on for a while until I got tired of fighting my own body. I briefly stopped, but quickly noticed that the more I indulged, the stronger these urges got. So, I started to rein them in again to a level that felt good for me.

I think it’s okay to glance at a pretty women, but that’s it. No staring, no trying to get more glances. It takes some willpower, but the more I practiced and the older I got, the easier it became. Also it does feel a little rewarding to notice the urge to peak at the girl in the short skirt, but to keep your eyes straight until she is gone. Makes me feel like a little superior to the other men I see leering.

One simple trick is to look around and check out who is glancing/staring instead. A lot of people do that, men and women, though mostly men (at least at women). It’s probably normal, but can be interactive for some. I think it’s important to accept that part of yourself, but also to not indulge it too much. If this seems impossible, I think consulting a therapist might be the way to go.