Also, for the sake of maximising engagement - what mistakes did adults in-general make when interacting with you as a kid, that you avoid replicating today?

  • Axolotl@feddit.it
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    3 days ago

    Don’t teach that cleaning, cooking etc is only a girl thing, don’t hit them, don’t spoil them too much (but don’t make them have zero money either), don’t force religion upon them, don’t force them to have your same ideologies, don’t try to make them be “better” than the kids of the same age, don’t force 'em to do shit they don’t want to do, don’t teach 'em that there are things that only males can do and things that only females can do and be supportive to them, approve their hobbies
    :3

    I didn’t live some of those luckly, like the one of being better than everyone but i feel like i have to include those. I am a very open minded person i think and so i would reflect that on my child, if i ever have one.

    • dethedrus@lemmy.dbzer0.com
      3·
      4 days ago

      I completely forgot the cooking part in my unhinged wall of text!

      My mother was convinced she was a celebrity chef (think early 80s version). She was not particularly amazing, just competent as one might expect someone forced to cook for a family would be.

      Despite her obvious greatness in the kitchen, she refused to teach me (her oldest son) to cook. Nonsense about not having the patience to do so.

      Oh wait, I forgot to mention that she was a college professor. Teaching a level 100 course in nutrition at the time (as a biochemistry professor…) and always claimed how much her students always loved her and called her their favorite teacher.

      So probably as accurate as her claims of being a great cook.

      Plus side is that I have become a decent cook and baker and while my stepdaughter had zero interest in either, both grandkids are really into it. And in their case, I started when they were very young and just tried to encourage their natural interests. Crazy how well that works.