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Cake day: March 24th, 2026

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  • Online dating is a bit of a misnomer. It’s not dating. It allows people to optimize selection based on superficiality, and stops anyone from from getting to know anyone. It’s also high stakes because arranged meets with matches are purpose driven.

    Put it down. Turn it off. Go do something you love and meet people. All sorts of people. Have fun, casually. Somewhere in there, you’ll find someone special.

    (Not directed to you OP, just online daters in general)







  • I sympathise, but the cliché is not strictly true. Nature is all about diversity. Just like humans have a certain ratio of “bad apples” born where someone is hard wired wrong, so do dogs, and likely all animals.

    Psychopathology is real. It would be a mistake to deny Nature it’s agency. There are people who belong in an institution. Dogs perhaps moreso.

    To your point, yes most problems are attributable to bad trainers, but even here there is something missing. Bad breeders - natural reproduction would select for fitness, and truly bad dogs would be limited to a small fraction of background instances. We have lots of people actively breeding killers with outsized agression and fear and ferocity, with hair triggers, on purpose. I’m not talking about guard dogs where fierce protective instincts are balanced with loyalty and bonding and intelligence. I mean literal psychokillers.

    I’m circling around Pit-Bulls and the like, but I need to be clear. The breed is fine. Some of my best friends are pit bulls. Diversity naturally makes most of them good dogs, just more context dependant and trainer demanding. I’m not talking about those. I’m only referring to a small subset that were overbred and the natural background level of freakshow.

    If you’ve only known pets from reputable breeders, accidental litters or the shelter rescues, understand that these select for the good dogs. If that’s all you know, you would have reason to doubt that bad dogs are possible.







  • Zeroing in “Missing the oily lustre”

    1. Beans have natural variation in batches as seasons change and inventory updates. Old beans, dry beans etc… Could try another coffee for comparison.

    2. Under extraction: Never mentioned the press, or your grinder. If your press is manual like a Flair, extraction is super sensitive to pressure which is dominated by grind size. If your grinder is aging, either slipping settings or wear on burrs could subtly increase grind size. Put the two together and boom! Underextraction, even with unperceptably small wear.

    If you have an automatic espresso machine, could be slight changes in plumbing, like boiler temp (check with thermometer) or pumps. Service, repair, replace or simply retune via settings and controls.

    Try one notch higher to bump extraction.